It can sometimes seem as though everyone around you has found their passion, or purpose in life, whilst yours remains mysterious and intangible.
This is NORMAL and it’s something most people go through at some point in their lives. Not everyone has a dream, nor is it imperative that they find one.
Some people seem to be born with a passion for a specific goal. Perhaps they have a rare or exceptional talent, or perhaps they were simply at the front of the queue when drive and determination were given out.
Most people are not this lucky and will spend a significant amount of time trekking down many different paths, still unsure if they actually want to reach the end of ANY of them.
Many people berate themselves for not madly loving anything in particular, but that is terribly unfair, what if the thing you will love is something that you haven’t even tried yet? How then could you possibly be expected to know whether you love it or not?
It would take a lifetime to try ALL of the things you haven’t tried yet, and honestly, some things are probably left untried for a reason…
So if you want to find out what you love, start with what you like. (If you aren’t sure what you like, start by ruling out what you hate.)
For example, if you quite like drawing, or doodling even, practice it. Do a little bit of drawing every day. This will help you improve, and most activities are more fun the better you get at them.
Experiment; try cartoons, still life, oil paints, computer animation, dried pasta and glitter, whatever the hell you like, as long as you try it and have fun. Also, be kind to yourself about the results – this is your first go, you won’t produce a Rembrandt.
You Don’t Have to Have a Dream!
Most importantly, please remember that you don’t HAVE to have a passion at all; it’s not compulsory.
You don’t need to have one big dream, as Tim Minchin said best in his wonderful 9 life lessons speech, you can have lots of little dreams, or as he calls them “micro-ambitions”.
(If you want to view Tim Minchin’s full speech click on the above picture.)
So in summary, you don’t have to have an all-encompassing passion in life. There is nothing wrong with pootling along aimlessly like the rest of us, but if you do want to look for one, the best way is to practice stuff you like, to discover what you love.