Should you care what other people think about you? I mean, have you met other people?!
Let me tell you a little something about other people. Other people like that TV show you think is stupid. They like that popular book that you think is dull. Other people think specifically is pronounced “pacifically”.
Ok, yes, SOME other people, but if you extrapolate those results to include all the other nonsense in the world that you disagree with, like say fruit teas, I still think it’s safe to say that other people’s opinions, en masse, are no useful measure of anything.
Ok, so we’ve established that you SHOULDN’T care what other people think about you, but to be honest you already knew that didn’t you? No one is sat around wishing that they cared more about what other people think.
Nobody likes the idea that someone else might think badly of them; it’s not a fun feeling. As humans we are hard-wired to care what other people think, it’s a survival tool left over from times where you could be murdered on a whim.
Everyone cares at least a little about what other people think, but it is still better for your mental health if you can learn to care a little less. What you’re aiming for is to take the caring well below the red line of obsession, whilst still keeping it well above the blue line of psychopathy.
There are two things that have helped me to stop caring what other people think about me quite so much, and I’ll share those with you here.
Firstly, the realisation that other people seldom think about you, and when they do, it is short-lived. I can promise you other people spend most of their awake-time thinking about their own lives, not yours.
Secondly, people who really know you won’t judge you unfairly, and people who don’t know you, aren’t in a position to judge you.
It really is mind over matter, or as Dr Seuss so brilliantly put it:
I once had a “friend” who told unpleasant lies about me, in whispers, to our social group. When I found out I was devastated and embarrassed initially, until I realised that anyone who really knew me had known immediately that the lies were untrue as they found me and told me so.
This one incident in my life, which seemed so small and petty at the time, completely freed me from caring about what other people think. It really hammered home the point for me because a couple of people did believe the lies and I discovered for myself that I honestly didn’t care, because I realised that they didn’t know me at all.
It is SO much fun to be yourself, don’t let people who don’t matter take that away from you. Please resolve today to not let what other people MIGHT think stop you from being you. Instead, do what you choose, say what you feel and be YOU.